A Ladi's Tresses: Back To A Relaxer

I made the big reveal on instagram a couple of weeks ago that I went back to the "creamy crack." Honestly, I've wanted to get a relaxer for a while (maybe a year?)...but I didn't want to feel like a failure, or as if I was doing it out of self-hate. Eventually, I reminded myself that it was only hair, an accessory that I can style anyway that I please.  

Ladi Look Back 2013

As 2013 comes to an end, there is no better way to prepare for the new year than to look back at how far you have come in the past year. My style has surely evolved, and I have have taken risks this year that I would have never dreamed I would try (hello crop tops!). Next year I want to continue with this fashion fearlessness, but work more on creatively shopping my closet rather than buying something new, and using accessories to transform an outfit.

Celebrity Style: Blonde Bob-Shells

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Warm weather has sparked more than a few haircuts in my past, so it does not surprise me that many celebrities have traded in their usual long manes for shoulder length and above bobs. Nicki Minaj sported a platinum blonde graduated bob on the August 2013 cover of Marie Claire magazine. Around the same time, Ciara was spotted rocking a chin length style, seen above in tousled waves.  Earlier this month, Beyonce' shocked the world as she did a "big chop" and revealed a pixie cut, then quickly made the switch to the chic bob she has been wearing ever since.  Lastly, Roc Nation (aka Jay-Z's) artist Rita Ora appeared this past Sunday at the MTV VMAs looking ever so lovely (and a tad like Beyonce'!) in her own chin length 'do.

What do you think of these blonde bob-shells? Would you wear one of these cute bobs?

My Little Secrets "Soul" Lacefront Wig Review

A few weeks ago I mentioned that I ordered a second wig from My Little Secrets Online and would be posting a review.  I apologize for the delay; at first I was hesitant about how much I wanted to share about this experience but I realized that it is my duty as a blogger to keep it all the way real...so here we go!

The Buying Experience

Marley Twists

Last week I took a trip to the beauty supply store with the intention of doing something different with my hair. I planned to just try some new products or buy some temporary hair dye for a summer color change for the summer, but somehow I walked out with 3 packs of Marley hair with the idea of doing my own Marley Twists.  

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My Little Secrets Lace Front Update

This lace front wig is still going strong! I wore it nonstop for the first month after I got it and then alternated wearing a week of my natural hair and a week of the wig.  Today I wanted to give you all an update on how I'm caring for and styling the wig.

#Team Twistout, #Team Braidout...or #Team Both?

It is no secret that I love a good twistout--specifically, a flat twist out. Twisting is quick and easy (for me) to do, and while it may come out looking different every time, the results are almost always great.

Twistouts

On the other hand, braidouts work better for stretching my hair to give my style length and also produce a pretty crinkly texture.

My Little Secrets Lace Front Wig: Initial Review

Another day, another protective style! 

I recently decided to try something new and purchase my first lacefront wig.  I was very nervous and hesitant to start using lace fronts...we have all seen some horrible ones on MediaTakeout and even on some celebrities and if people who have millions of dollars can't get it right, how can little old me get one without looking crazy?  I bit the bullet and bought one after realizing that the price would be comparable to what I would pay for a sew-in weave (hair + paying for the install) and, even if I didn't love the wig, it could still be my "work wig" to give my natural hair a rest during the week (and give me a few extra minutes of sleep in the mornings!)

After some YouTube research, I found an affordable wig vendor that had natural looking wigs.  My Little Secrets offers lace front and full lace wigs in both curly and straight styles (I'm currently lusting over their curly hair options!).  Their wigs-unlike some other brands I saw--look good on the mannequins,  so I had high hopes for how they would look on my head.  I purchased "Diamond", a 10-12 inch 100% Human Indian Remy lace front wig in color 1B and selected their Yaki texture.  Here is a pic from the website: 

My Little Secrets "Diamond" (source)

My Little Secrets also offers add on services such as adding combs, coloring services, knot bleaching (which apparently makes the lace hairline and parts look more natural), and  adding hair to increase the length or density of their stock wigs.  I chose to get the knots semi-bleached to make the wig look as realistic as possible. Because this is technically a coloring service to the "roots" of the hair, the website does mention that this process can compromise the hair, especially if you are ordering a wig that has already been dyed.  

My only issue with the ordering process for the wig is the shipping. Most wigs ship within 5-6 business days, with an addition 4-8 business days added for the add on services (knot bleaching adds 8 days).  On top of that, the vendor's business week is from Wednesday to Saturday instead of the standard Monday to Friday. I ordered my wig on February 28th...and it did not ship until March 20th. Thankfully, it was shipped through priority mail so I got it 3 days after it was shipped.  

Now...for some pics: 

Side view

lace front portion of wig

The wig comes with combs on both sides and in the rear. There is lace from ear to ear, with about a 3inx3in area of lace at the front that allows you to create a center or a side part.

I took a few pictures of the wig fresh out of the box, with the lace still attached.   My Little Secrets does have an exchange program if you are not happy with your wig, but the wig must not be altered and the lace must not be cut so I wanted to make sure it was to my liking before cutting the lace.  There were no defects, the wig actually came pre-curled/styled, and I was impressed with how natural the part and hairline looked--even with the lace still attached!  The hair was really soft and had a natural, low-shine look.  I noticed no shedding at all with running my hands through it and combing it with a wide tooth comb. 

Final product, minimal styling

After cutting the lace, I curled the hair a little just to see how it would respond to heat styling. The hair curled easily and held the curls for 4 days of continuous wear. At night, I store the wig on a styrofoam wig head and in the morning I don't have to do anything to it.  As for my real hair...I twisted it back into 4 large flat twists, pinned the ends up in the back, and hid my hair under a wig cap.

So far, I am loving this wig! It feels so good to literally spend less than 1 minute styling my hair, and I cannot believe how the part looks like my own scalp!  I have to mention that if there is really strong wind the sides of the wig where the lace is may lift up if you don't glue it down (I do NOT use glue), but with combs on the side of the wig it is very secure (read: will not fly off!) and if you are worried about it you can use a couple of bobby pins by your ear. 

What do you all think? Have you ever tried a lace front? 

Casual Outfit & Goddess Twists

Jacket: Old Navy / Shirt: TJ Maxx / Jeans: Bisou Bisou / Boots: Steve Madden

This outfit was just something to throw on to go shopping.  Out of pure laziness To give my hair a rest from a week of twist-outs with nightly re-twisting, I decided to style my hair in goddess braids (also known as milkmaid braids) made famous by the fabulous Tracee Ellis Ross.   Then I realized I can't braid, so I settled for goddess twists.  This style took all of 5 minutes, and with my big earrings and a little bit of blush, I was good to go! 

Curly Sew In: Bohyme Brazilian Wave

Ever since I've been natural, I have opted for curly, natural looking extensions. The first curly weave I ever tried was the Brazilian Wave texture by Bohyme.  I saw so many positive reviews of this hair around the blogosphere and on YouTube I had to try it, but I was taken aback when I saw the package in my local beauty supply store and the picture looked like this:

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Despite my concerns about the texture, I bought it anyway and was pretty happy with the results.  The hair looked like the picture fresh out of the package and after blowing it out, but after wetting the hair it had a gorgeous curl pattern.

Fresh install, a wet braid out was done on my leave out hair and the hairstylist brushed out my hair and the weave to blend.

To blend my hair, I usually did small two-strand twists on my leave out hair. I loved that I was able to do braid outs and twist outs on the hair to manipulate the texture to blend better, but sometimes there was a clear texture difference between the sleek, probably 3B-C weave and my coarse, 4 A-B hair.  I believe this was partly due to me being a natural hair newbie struggling to find the right products to style my leave out hair--now I know that my hair can achieve the sleek look using gels like Ecostyler and Kinky Curly Curling Custard so I'm sure I can do a better job now! I do think that this hair was a little shinier than the Halley's Curls Creole Wavy hair that I usually use now. 

horrible blending day! Look at that frizz/poof at the top!

Good hair day! I was told I looked like "Joan" from Girlfriends! 

As with any kinky/curly hair, you have to handle the hair like you would your own to avoid tangles and knots.  I've heard of some people straightening this hair, but I never tried it. I would buy this hair again.  The hair is very soft,  pretty, and versatile, and a major benefit and can be purchased locally at beauty supply stores (I hate having to wait for shipping!) or online at many different vendors (comparison shop!).  

Have you tried the Bohyme Brazilian Wave? 

Spiral Curlers Review

I ordered a package of spiral curlers from Amazon that are similar to the brand Curl Formers. For $27, I received a pack 40 curlers (about 20in long) and 1 application hook.  These were about the same size as the Curl Formers Extra Long & Wide option. 

After freshly washing my hair, I applied a moisturizer (homemade mix of shea butter, aloe vera gel, and grapeseed oil), a litle bit of grapeseed oil, and a bit of EcoStyler olive oil gel to my hair.  I applied the curlers in a little over an hour (actually 1hr and 5min--I timed myself lol) and ended up using 39 of the curlers.  I watched a youtube video to see how to apply these curlers, but honestly it was really quick and easy. The only trouble I had was that sometimes the application hook would latch on to the top band of the curlers as I began to pull my hair through, however as long as I held the top band slightly open as I started pulling the hook through the curler, the hook would slide through with ease. 

When I finished setting my hair, I got a little anxious to see how it would turn out so I pulled out the first curler I had applied and was surprised to see that after only an hour (and with no heat applied), a nice ringlet had already formed!

Seeing that I didn't really need alot of heat to get a good curl, I only sat under the dryer for about 15min just to make sure my roots were dry to minimize frizz, as I was planning to sleep with the curlers in my hair. I do NOT recommend sleeping in these if you can avoid it, b/c it was so uncomfortable and I really had a hard time figuring out how to hold my head so I could actually fall asleep, and everytime I turned over I had to go through the process all over again. 

Despite my restless night, the results the next morning were well worth it--Perfect spiral ringlets! I was concerned about the possibility of breakage from pulling my hair through the curlers and pulling the curlers off my hair to remove them, but I did not see any pieces of hair caught in the curlers and felt no hair pulling from my roots as I removed the curlers. Also, my hair in the front did not look completely smooth on a few of the curlers while they were in my hair, but after removing them all the curls looked sleek so you don't really need to worry about about everything being perfect while setting, as long as all of your hair is in the roller and is given enough time to dry.

Separated Curls:

Overall, I am very happy with the curlers & they will definitely be a regular tool in my styling regimen!

Key takeaways:

• Easy to use
• No heat needed
• Uniform spiral curls

Ladi Like PSA: New Shea Moisture Hair Color & Sale at Target.com

Shea Moisture, the company known for natural skin and hair care products has expanded their hair product offerings to include hair dye!

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This past week, Shea Moisture posted images on their Facebook page of the new 12-shade Ammonia-Free SheaMoisture Hair Color System.  Enriched with linseed oil and soy protein and containing no sulfates or ammonia, this color system is said to provide vibrant, permanent color that can also provide coverage for gray hair.  The new hair color system is initially only available in 400 Target stores nationwide, so check here to see if it is available in a store near you.

If not, you can still stock up on some of your favorite Shea Moisture products, which are now buy one get one 50% off at Target.com!

A Ladi's Tresses: Bantu Knot Out Attempt

It's a new year, so I decided to try something new with my hair. I've seen many natural hair bloggers/vloggers create cute, curly styles by creating bantu knots.  After watching a handful of YouTube tutorials, I attempted a set.  

I started by lightly spritzing the ends of  hair with a water bottle to make it slightly damp. 

Next, I pulled random sections of hair and applied  Beautiful Textures Curl Control Defining Pudding to each section.

Taking one section in my hand, I began to twirl the hair around itself; as the hair becomes twisted, it starts to curl around itself to begin forming the bantu knot. When I got to the end of my hair, I took the last inch or so and wrapped it around the knot and tucked the end to secure the knot.  Some naturals begin by creating a two-strand twist and then wrapping it around itself to form a knot, but I chose not to because I wanted to see what kind of curl pattern the bantu know would create on it's own.

After completing my whole head section by section, I ended up with 10 knots.

I kept the bantu knots in overnight to set the curls. The next morning, I sprayed my hair with
Shea Moisture Organic Raw Shea Butter Reconstructive Elixir Spray and took aloose each knot.  I was happy with the curl pattern produced by the knots, but as I started separating and fluffing my hair I realize that my sections were too big, and I may have used too much product. At some places, the curl at the root was much looser than at the ends, and the hair at the back of my head  was still damp so the curls hardly set at all. I ended up just smoothing my hair into a curly ponytail.

I will definitely be trying this style again in the future, probably using about 20-25 knots.

What do you think? Have you ever tried a bantu knot out? 

Ladi Look Back: Year End Review

2012 is soon coming to an end. 2012 was a little rocky, but I can honestly say that I have grown so much as an blogger, aspiring fashionista, and overall as a person.  I have already coined 2013 as the Year of NO Excuses so the seeds I planted in 2012 will blossom in 2013 as I work harder, take risks, and open my life to possibility and change.

My style has definitely improved this year, largely due to me stepping out of my comfort zone and becoming more accepting of my body. Joining the Big Fat Summer Challenge was one of the best decisions I've ever made style wise, and a close second would be planning my look by season (helps soo much with shopping!). 2013 I will continue refine my style and take a few fashion risks (like print mixing, wearing bold accessories, and adding more body con skirts/dresses).  Below are some of my favorite looks of 2012:  

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In the beginning of 2012, I set a hair goal to grow and retain 4 inches. I spent a few months wearing protective styles like sew-ins, buns, and wigs (even made my own!). I perfected my twist-out technique, tried to  improve my wash-n-gos, and tested new products to help with growth. I can't do an official length check yet because I'm still wearing a sew-in, but I'm sure that I've achieved some good growth this year! Hoping for Bra Strap Length (or at least fully covering my tattoo) in 2013!  Check out a few of my favorite hair moments from the past year:

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Thank you all for reading my little blog and sharing in my journey this past year! I appreciate you all, and hope you all are riding with me for another year!

Throwback Thursday (#TBT): Relaxed Hair Journey (and decision to transition!)

Sometime during my junior year of college (2008) I got really into haircare. I followed countless blogs, created a regimen, and seriously started focusing on healthy hair practices and growing long, beautiful hair. I was still relaxed back then, but I started stretching my relaxers, switched from direct heat to roller sets, and experimented with protective styles (even though I didn't have a name for them back then!). I was active on a few healthy hair social networks including Hairlista.com.  I kinda forgot about the site after I went natural, but today I got a random email saying that I had a new friend request waiting so I logged on just for kicks...Aah, old memories!

I found my old pics from my relaxed hair journey, and a short blog post I did when I was thinking about transitioning!

Take a look:

It is amazing how far I've come from the nervous girl who was scared to commit to transitioning  to being almost 2.5 years fully natural (almost 3.5 years post- my last relaxer)! The best part is that my hair is now longer than it was when I was relaxed!

My First Youtube Video! High Bun Tutorial

When I  got a new camera last month I started playing around with it snapping pics everywhere and making little videos to test it out. Well, today I'm taking the big (and I mean BIG) step of sharing one of my videos with someone other than my fiance. I just posted my very first video on YouTube  It is a short tutorial showing how I create a high bun hairstyle. Check it out on YouTube, or view it here after the jump. Hope you enjoy!

Hair This Week: Two-Strand Twists

Sunday night I spent a couple of hours twisting my hair while catching up on my DVR recordings. I have not twisted my hair in about a year mainly because I don't like spending hours on my hair and because I really like wearing my hair in loose styles, but I really needed a styling break (and a few extra minutes of sleep in the morning before getting ready for work!). Plus I need more time for my scalp to rest from that Jamaican Black Castor Oil reaction before I get another sew-in (I think I may have gotten addicted to long hair!). The good thing about the twists is that my hair retains so much moisture that I could go all week without adding any product my hair and it will still feel moisturized when I take the twists apart. Also, the shrinkage (see pics) makes my hair so short that it doesn't rub against my clothes as much, limiting that friction and possible breakage. I'll probably keep the twists in until Friday night and then wash and flat twist my hair to wear in a twist out for the weekend.

What are your hair plans for the week?

Hair Randoms

 ponytail=growth!

• I've been using Tropic Isle Jamaican Black Caster Oil on my scalp and eyebrows to help with growth. After a month I had to stop because the itching was unbearable!  I read that the itch comes from the oil detoxifying your scalp, but I can't say I buy that explanation (and I am not willing to wait to find out if it stops when my scalp "detoxifies").  I do feel that my eyebrows have gotten a lot darker since I've been using it, and my hair has grown since I've taken out my weave--but I can't say for sure that the growth is due to the castor oil, or the fact that I had a low-manipulation style.

• As you can see from my wedge sneaker post, I straightened my hair for the first time this year! Instead of following my usual straightening routine, I used a sample of Dark and Lovely 6 Week Anti-Reversion Cream Serum. I had reservations about using this product because the advertisements and the packaging states that it was made specifically for relaxed hair (as if a heat styled natural wouldn't need an anti-reversion product) and I felt the claim about results lasting 6-weeks was a little confusing/misleading. In order to last 6-weeks, the product must be used weekly after every shampoo. Maybe I think too much, but I feel if it works as well as it claims to (and I'm using it weekly), then I should be able to use it for months and it would still keep new growth from reverting! Anyhoo, I used the product as instructed and didn't use any other products except a little Aveda Brilliant Anti-Humectant Pomade at the end.  By the time I finished my whole head, the hair on the side I started with already looked poofy so I doubt this product alone would keep my hair straight for an entire week. I did like that the cream/serum didn't feel heavy, and it made my hair feel really soft after blowdrying.  I am on Day 5 and with nightly rolling or wrapping and a little bit of the Aveda pomade in the AM, my hair is still straight!

• This Fall, I'm going to focus more on hair styles where my hair is stretched, such as banding or lightly blowdrying my hair before doing twist-outs and braid-outs. As the temperature gets cooler I want to limit my wet styling and maybe straighten my hair more often since I don't have to worry as much about reversion. 

Kinky Curly Sew-in: All About My Hair

Last week, I got a new sew-in.  For this install, I tried out the Kinky Curly hair from All About My Hair. 

picture from the website

I was a little nervous about how it would blend, but the one good thing about the All About My Hair website is that there is a customer gallery, so there were a ton of pictures of different people rocking the hair at different lengths.  I was going for a natural look, so I ordered a 4 oz bundle of hair in 10" length and a 4 oz bundle in 12" length.   Surprisingly, I was able to achieve exactly the look that I was going for, and the hair blends perfectly!  

 Top L-R: fresh out the pack; wefts while wet. Bottom L-R: fresh install; 2nd day after blending. 

It's still early, but so far I'm in love with this hair! It is the perfect length, it feels so soft and responds well to the products I use on my own hair, and I only need to use a little water and gel on my leave-out hair to blend. I did read that that this hair is a little difficult to manage--which can be expected given that it is curly hair--but it feels as if it is actually easier to manage than my natural hair  because it doesn't get as dry as my hair, and I don't have to be as gentle with it as I am when styling my natural hair. I'll post updates in a few weeks!

Wash-n-Go Maintenance Regimen

When I was packing boxes to prepare for my move, I found a ton of barely-used hair products collecting dust under the sink.  Between deciding what to toss, give away, or keep, I started testing out products and stumbled across a new regimen to maintain my wash-n-gos!  

I love the quickness of a wash-n-go, but not the tangles and single strand knots I get from them. Also, I am rarely able to get "second day hair" without re-wetting my hair or applying a heavy gel that creates crunchy hair (and contributes to even more tangles!)..that is, until now.  After a cute wash-n-go, I follow these steps at night:

  

• Spray hair with a mix of water, glycerin, and Aphogee pro vitamin leave-in conditioner. I realized that my hair must have been lacking protein because  after washing my hair and using the protein-based Aphogee leave-in, my curls do not break/snap as easily.  I added the leave-in to my homemade hair mix to balance moisture and protein of my hair.  
• Apply SheaMoisture curl enhancing smoothie for moisture.
• Smooth IC hair polisher styling gel onto the hair. I love this gel because it smooths my edges, but is also water-based and can be used on my whole head to define and clump my curls with no crunchiness or any residue at all by the end of the day.
• Apply Creme of Nature Argan Oil Gloss & Shine Polisher as a sealant.  
• Set the hair into 2 large twists to sleep. 
• Fluff and separate curls in the AM.

With this combo of products, my hair stayed moisturized and soft to the touch while maintaining the texture and definition of my original wash-n-go.  I was able to do this same process for a week with the same results and with no visible product build-up!

Second day hair